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This page isn't just for "grownups". 
A lot of the time a parent is the perfect person to check in on their daughters, but sometimes girls don't know their parents, or they don't feel safe talking about anything with them, sometimes it needs to be the older girl on the soccer team, or a neighbor, someone who intentionally checks in on them and asks the hard questions. Please be that person. You never know who needs you. 

Good Questions & Conversation Starters to check in on their Instagram "health":

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What is a high and low from this week?

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How does being on Instagram for a while make you feel?

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Do you ever get creepy messages from guys on social media? How do you handle them?

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Have you ever felt unsafe on Instagram?

These are just a few ways to check in with someone, it's important to pay attention -- if they get awkward about something or quiet, why? Ask a few follow-up Q's. Try to keep it from a lecture type conversation, it encourages kids to not talk to you about these things anymore. Stay open and focus on letting them talk! Try doing these weekly with different questions
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Check
Their Feed

Every now and then, scroll through their page -- What do they post? What do the comments look like?  If you see something that makes you uneasy talk to them about it.

If they are posting inappropriate  photos, get the heart of the issue. Yelling and demanding isn't often helpful, so try to figure out why they want to post that and what it accomplishes for them. 

It's different for everyone

unfortunately there just isn't a lot of research on Instagram and how it's linked to other major issues like human trafficking and trauma. But It's safe to assume that constant sexual harassment from predators targeted towards girls who are under 18 years old has some side affects.

Depending on the girl and the level of harassment it can effect them differently so it's important to pay closes attention. If they are very young, a good question to ask yourself is "Should they really have Instagram? Is it worth it?". 

Ask yourself some questions

These are some good starting Q's to ask yourself. 

- Is this girl under my care old enough to handle the responsibly and sometimes hard parts of having an Instagram?

- Do I have enough time to be able to check in and ask them questions about their time on social media?

- Do I understand that with social media comes the possibility of issues like sexual harassment, physical comparison, online bullying, and exposer to a lot of dark things? Am I comfortable with that?

- Do I have a good relationship with the girl under my care or do I need to help her find an older girl who is wise that she can trust and talk to when things get hard?

Maybe she's not just moody, maybe she's 
hurting

If you notice your daughter or friend is acting different, has expensive items randomly, has been really short-tempered,  is gone for long periods of time, or just seems off, It's really important to check in on her. Maybe it's not something related to online abuse, trafficking, or something else dark, but maybe it is. Either way, checking in on a person's mental and physical health can literally save someone's life. 

Predators go after girls who are vulnerable and hurting, so if we can help lift our girls up, encourage them, help them to feel known and heard, then maybe they won't be as vulnerable to grooming tactics. 
Our main resource page is a great place to find more information, but these are some great ones more specified for "adults".  

Dad Uncovers Sex-Trafficking Scheme in Daughter’s Instagram Account, Posts Viral Warning to Parents

When you hear the words “human trafficking” what comes to mind? Do you understand how terrible it is yet think “that’s not really impacting me personally”?

Teaching Kids to Be Smart About Social Media

There are plenty of good things about social media - but also many risks and things kids and teens should avoid. 
They don't always make good choices when they post something to a site, and this can lead to problems.
So it's important to talk with your kids about how to use 
social media wisely.

HUMAN TRAFFICKING AND SOCIAL MEDIA

The internet has dramatically reshaped how we buy and sell everything – including each other. Social media has been used by traffickers to recruit victims, to proliferate their trafficking operations, and to control victims through restricting their social media access, impersonating the victim, or spreading lies and rumors online.

7 Tactics a Child Predator Uses to Lure Kids: Red Flag Phrases Every Parent Needs to Know

This is a guest post written by Kimberly King, an award-winning author, teacher, and authority on the subject of sexual abuse prevention.
As parents, we all want to keep our kids safe from harm. We teach our kids to wash their hands, cover their mouths, buckle up the seat belts, and always wear a helmet when riding a bike. 
Sexual abuse prevention is a bit more complicated than that.